Across the U.S., October is recognized as National Pregnancy and Infant loss Awareness Month. As result several events are being held throughout the mountain state to help families remember their loved ones lost at a young age.
Erica Jones and her husband John say the loss of a child is difficult to put into words. Last year the couple lost their daughter Harmony to a rare condition just three hours after giving birth.
“Its something that you will never get over. It’s something that you learn to live with that grief everyday and that is why events like this are so nice because its nice to be able to remember our children,” she said.
She and her husband are not alone. Thursday evening roughly 70 parents who have lost their loved ones at a tender age gathered in solidarity for a special candle light vigil to celebrate their angels in heaven.
Its called the 5th Annual Wave of Light Ceremony. Cindy Chamberlin served as an event organizer. Her child also died at a young age.
“These are our children, we want them to be remembered and we want people to say their names and there is this social stigma that oh you don’t say anything because you don’t want to make the families uncomfortable we remember them every day,” she said.
More than 200 candles were lit bearing the name of a lost loved one. During the ceremony each baby’s name was read out loud in their memory.
To help cope with the grieving process Erica Jones turned to poetry as her outlet, she also read a poem during the ceremony. She had these words of hope for any parent who has shared and suffered the same loss as she did.
“Reach out to other families that have experienced lost. Because one thing that you get stuck in, is that you feel alone in your grief and actually 1 out of 4 pregnancies end in loss so its a lot more common than ladies realize. And I just want them to know they are not alone,” she said.
Despite her loss, Erica and her husband are happy to announce their second pregnancy. As of today Erica is 12 weeks pregnant.
For more information on similar events visit the New River Wave of Light Facebook Page.